Hailame Feletoa Tua’one

I’d like to introduce my husband, favorite person and best friend, Hailame Feletoa Tua’one.  The man who you’ll rarely ever see not wearing a hat (and has 40+ laying around the house), who loves all things BYU, looks younger than majority of his siblings and has an Australian accent when he starts talking about the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

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I was planning on having him write about himself, but I’m pretty sure the whole post would consist of 3 sentences, and then he would say, “Babe, you already know me, just do it for me,” which he did say when I was asking him some questions about himself. :)… which shows how much I know about him!

From the perspective of his wife and his favorite person, I don’t want this post to seem to bias, some parts will be but I’ll do my best to share who he is as a individual, friend, uncle, brother, son, and future father.

Family Man

Hailame comes from a large Tongan family, like a really large Tongan family.  He is 3rd of 12 kids (6 boys and 6 girls) and is the oldest son.  He loves spending time with his family (especially his Dad and brothers) and is the beloved favorite Uncle of 30+ nieces and nephews!

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Something unique and wonderful about coming from the rich Tongan heritage is EXTENDED family relationships (and they are most definitely close relationships).  Hailame has combined, from both sides of the family, over 200 FIRST cousins, and they are as close as siblings are and all get together regularly.

The amount of love and support that comes from Hailame’s extended family is incredible.  They come to support each other for baby blessings, baptisms, birthdays, graduations, weddings and more.

 

Hailame loves his parents and family so much. He is a Mama’s Boy to his wonderful Mother, and his Dad’s #1 sidekick.  There isn’t a day that goes by that doesn’t he calls or texts one of his parents to check in on them to see how they are doing.  He lives to serve and support them in any way he can.

Working Man

Hailame gives all the credit to his father for his hard working ethic.  From a young age he was taught how to work, and work well.  He is regularly the first to offer to help others and the last to leave a function or event so he can help with cleaning up.

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When visiting family in Salt Lake City, you will most likely find Hailame spending his time working a long side his Dad, whether it be at his job or around the house.  He looks forward to continually learning from his Dad, as well as talking to and learning from his Dad about his Tongan heritage.

Hailame’s Mom was the first love of his life!  He loves spending time in the kitchen with her when she is preparing a wedding or birthday cake or desserts for an event.  His Mom taught him how to bake from a young age, and was given the nickname of “Pillsbury Boy” for his mad baking skills.

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A large part of Hailame’s big heart was from his Mom.  She is the #1 Mom, Grandma, Auntie, and Friend who will lives to bless others with her talents.

Hailame enjoys working and serving others, being productive and providing for our family.  He never sees any job below him, and is willing to put in the time to sufficiently provide.

People Person Man

Hailame loves spending time with people.  I can guarantee that if you come by our house, he will invite you to stay and ask if you would like anything to eat. On Sundays, he usually asks me to make a little extra dinner so he can invite friends over.

He loves meeting new people, and has a talent for remembering people, and their names.  Quite often, people won’t remember my name, but they’ll say, :”aren’t you married to Hyrum?”  Or “isn’t your husband the really awesome Polynesian?  He is so nice and so cool!”  I can accept it, because I always agree that he is an awesome Polynesian and super nice and way cool!  I know…I have great taste… I married him obviously!

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Hailame has a way of people putting people at ease when they are around him.  He is easy to talk to, will start up the conversation if no one is talking, and will leave with a new friend by the end of the conversation.

Fun Man

In addition to being a people person man, Hailame is also a fun man!  If you’re hanging out with Hailame, you will most likely be listening to music because he LOVES music and he carries a mini and/or larger Bluetooth speaker around with him EVERYWHERE he goes.

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He loves playing pickleball, and especially enjoys teaching our friends how to play pickleball, so he has more friends to play with.  If he had his way, we would be playing pickleball every single night of the week!

Playing card games is a regular activity in our relationship.  A tradition he started early in our marriage was playing cards when we go out to eat while waiting for our food to come.  When we invite friends to our house, we play cards, when we go up north to visit family, he plays cards until 1 or 2 in the morning with his Dad, Mom and brothers.

Hailame has a very contagious positive outlook on life.  It’s hard to not have his good attitude and happiness effect you because he has such a huge heart and is always trying to make others happy around him.  Very few things in life upset him (one of the few… when BYU loses a football game), and he has a way with helping others see the good in life.

Christlike Man

Hailame is a man of action when it comes to living the Gospel of Jesus Christ.  He loves to serve those around him.  He attributes his dedication to living a Christlike life to his parents who taught by example what it means to minister and give to those and need.   His testimony of the Gospel shows through the way he lives his life and how he serves and loves those around him.

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His motto in sharing the Gospel of Jesus Christ is “Open Your Mouth.”  He believes that the best way in reaching out to those is putting aside your fears and opening your mouth.  He is the best at speaking to those he doesn’t know and does his best to find how he can help them and showing true Christlike love to them.

Future Father Man

Obviously this small post can’t possibly encompass and describe the man that Hailame is, but I hope that it will give a small glimpse into the kind of Future Father he will be one day.

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Hailame is going to be a wonderful dad.  The children that come into our home will be completely adored by him and they will know daily how much he loves them and who their #1 Fan is for life.  He will teach by example how to be good, honest, selfless, patient, and hardworking.

He was made to be dad and I promise you, he will be the best dad.

love,

His #1 Fan

hannah jane

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

a new road, a new adventure

You have no idea how hard it was for me to keep our grand news (ADOPTION!!!!) to myself!  I think it was because this was the first time in a long time that we had good news to share and I was just dying to tell everyone!!

We wanted to tell our families before we shared the news, and now that they are fully in the loop, you can bet that I’m going to be talking about this a lot!!!

I want to share how we came to the decision to adopt, and how thankful we are to start this new adventure!

As I said from my last post, Hailame and I were brought to a crossroads in our Baby Making Journey, and had to decide how we wanted to move forward.

During our follow up appointment, we were told that we would have to do 3 more months of trial medications and tests to see if we could get our bodies to a place where they can conceive, however this time, the amount of money that we would have to put out would triple and it wasn’t a guarantee the medications would work.

This just about killed us.  We were so hopeful that we would move forward with the IVF treatments and instead we found out we were no where near where we needed to be.memes-gordon-hinckley-quotes-1928655-wallpaper-1

After the appointment, Hailame drove me back to work, and the drive back was silent.  We didn’t even know what to say.

We were frustrated, heart broken, feeling bad, confused, and on the verge of tears (well at least I was).

The last half of my day just dragged.  I couldn’t get my mind off of what we just went through.

Where were we going to get the money, how much longer would we have to do this trial run to get where we need to be, why can’t this be our time to start our family?

The next day, while at work, I kept thinking about adoption.  I’m not sure why, because I had forced the idea to the back of my mind for so long because I was so determined that we were going to be able to have a baby on our own.

But the more I thought about it and started reading about it, the more it made sense that this was supposed to be the way we build our family.

I called Hailame during work and said, “Honey, I know this is NOT the conversation to have while at work or on the phone, but I need to say it now,  I think we need to adopt a baby!”

The second I said it out loud I had peace just rush through me.  This had been the answer to our endless prayers.  God was opening a door for us, and I’m pretty sure the door had been there for a while, I just refused to look at it.

We both had our own personal confirmations that this was right road for us to be on, and it was going to be great adventure!

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I never thought in a million years that we would ever adopt a baby, but for the first time in a long time, we can talk about our future children, without heart ache (or me breaking down uncontrollably) because I know this is exactly what we were meant to do, and we are blessed to be in this situation.

So here we are!  Ready and so excited to move forward!

I hope you will join us in this adventure!  We are stepping into new territory and we are open to all the advice, support and prayers we can get!

“Come What May and Love It!”

love, hannah jane